Grief is a commanding, sometimes overpowering emotion, irrespective of whether our sadness originates from the loss of a loved one or from a terminal diagnosis we or someone we love have received.

We might find ourselves feeling numb, in a haze and removed from daily life, unable to carry on with regular duties while loaded with a sense of loss.

The loss can be physical (such as a death), social (such as divorce), or occupational (such as a job). Emotional reactions of grief may comprise anger, denial, guilt, anxiety, sadness, and despair. Physical reactions of grief may consist of sleeping problems, changes in appetite, physical problems, or illness. Our grief is as singular as our lives.

In my opinion, if there are no typical responses to loss, there are no stages of grief that fit every person or relationship. Too often, when a grieving person seeks professional help, they use the self-diagnosis of depression to describe themselves. Consequently, some professionals hurry to prescribe treatment with drugs. While pharmaceutical companies benefit from the over diagnosis of their drugs, the patients may find their grief numbed and extended by medicines they do not need.

In this case, whether you choose to take hypnotherapy or counselling, I will treat you with care, empathy and respect. I will listen to you in a non judgemental way offering the space to express your feelings and accompany you in your own grieving process.


by Kirsti A. Dyer

My light and my life 
provided me hope for a future, 
a reason to live 
and the strength to exist. 

Suddenly extinguished, 
taken away without warning. 
I was abandoned, 
left in the darkness 
trying to survive 
searching for any glimmer 
on the distant horizon. 

I stand precariously 
on a piece of solid ground 
barely large enough for my feet. 
Around me, a vast expanse 
of desolation and emptiness 
for as far as I can tell. 

It waits 
with extending arms 
to engulf and surround me 
in a permanent shadow. 

I remain tenuously balanced 
on this small bit of solid footing 
Providing me the last vestiges of hope, 
Unsure where to turn 
or how to find an escape. 

No path in sight, 
it has decayed into the abyss. 
No light to guide my footsteps, 
it has been withdrawn. 

In complete blackness 
I close my eyes 
waiting to fall. 

A light appears before me 
from within me. 

I discover 
a brilliance inside 
An internal source of strength, power 
and illumination. 

This force surges through my body 
filling me with courage. 
I open my eyes once more in the darkness 
finally lose my balance, 
and descend 
into the eternal night. 

But in falling, I discover 
that I possess wings. 

With new courage, my own light, 
and wings to save me 
from the everlasting darkness 
I take flight 
high above the waiting chasm 
towards a faint glimmer 
far on the horizon 
and hope.